Hi, my name is Sarah and I have a negative mind.
Let me break that down a bit for you. As humans, some of us are wired to think certain ways. For me, since as far back as I can remember I always thought of the negative or what could go wrong in a situation, rather than what could go right etc. This has nothing to do with how I was brought up by the way – my parents are fantastic – just thought I’d add that in there haha.
Anyways, changing a habit in the mind is not easy and not a quick fix. I really hated the way I thought. Any situation would be what if this happens, stress, anxiety, feeling down, negative, heavy. If I thought of ways things could go right, I’d then think of but what if it goes wrong and all these negative scenarios would enter my head and bring my mood crashing down. I’d focus on those, obsess, stress. It affected my daily life.
I eventually wanted to try and change as I met people who thought positive first, didn’t even entertain negative outcomes and oh, how happy, carefree, stress free they were! I wanted to be like that! Why feel stressed and down when I could feel positive and happy?
For awhile I tried myself to think positive of any situation i was thinking negative about. It would work, for awhile. Then I’d spiral back into negative land and it would consume me. Some days were easier than others.
I feel like I wasn’t quite ready to take on this challenge. When you want to make a change in your life, you really need to REALLY want to make that change. Otherwise It will not work. If you want to loose weight you will overhaul your diet and stick to it, if you don’t want to or aren’t mentally ready too you will go on a ‘diet’ fail and give up and go back to your unhealthy ways. Trust me, I know this from experience!
My true journey to positive thinking land started when I broke up with my long-term partner in 2013. I was lost. I didnt know what to do with my life, I was single, getting closer to 30 blah blah. If you read my blog you know I packed up my life into a suitcase and moved to London last year. Yesterday marked 6 months in London!
Basically after the breakup I had alot of time alone, with my thoughts. I had alot of time to think, figure out what kind of person i want to be, what kind of future partner I want to attract, how I want to live my life, what kind of people I wanted to surround myself with etc etc I decided I wanted to be a positive person, deep down, I know I am, but I needed to re-train my mind. I got a gratitude jar, a gratitude diary, I read blogs, articles, books on self-help, positivity, girl power etc I talked to people, asked advice. I did more yoga. I ate better. I focused more on looking after my body and my mind.
I have come a long way, but I am still a work in progress. Some days are easier than others to change a positive mindset BUT oh my can you see the difference. I feel SO much better when I focus on what CAN go right, not entertain what could go wrong. I feel so much LIGHTER when I think to myself everything will work out. You have no control over some situations, why sit there in a bad mood thinking worst case when you could think, It will work out just the way it is meant to, now Im going to get on with my day and enjoy the present!
I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel and it is a fabulous light, I do not want to be stuck in the dark. So I will continue to re-train my mind to be positive in every scenario life throws at me.
So people, do what you have to do to live the positive life you want to. Follow your gut, your intuition. If t doesnt feel right, change it. Positive thoughts can change your mood, your day, your life. Surround yourself with positive people who lift you up, do what makes you happy.
What are your practices to keep a positive mind? Share with me in the comments!